Archive for 2013

Editorial Comment on DOMA

The views expressed in this article at those of Robyn Trask and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Loving More Board or the organization as a whole.

supremecourtI feel overturning DOMA is a step in the right direction and I am thrilled for the many same sex couples that will be positively affected by this decision.
Is it a step toward plural marriage? I am ...
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What Do Polys Want?: An Overview of the 2012 Loving More Survey

What Do Polys Want?: An Overview of the 2012 Loving More Survey

Polyamory Research Survey Background

From February 10th to April 2nd 2012, Loving More, with the endorsement of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) conducted an internet-based survey of over 4000 participants who self-identify as polyamorous. This is the largest survey of self-identified polyamorous individuals to date. Individuals were recruited through local and regional listserves, Loving More email list, the PolyResearchers list, the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality’s (IASHS) student and alumni lists, and the American Association ...
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Gay Marriage and the Relationship Revolution

Gay Marriage and the Relationship Revolution
by Robyn  Trask
Gay marriage is being hotly debated all around the country. In an effort to block marriage equality for gays and lesbians ultra conservatives make the argument that marriage is about procreation and serving the interests of society. The challenge is this argument does not hold up under even the slightest scrutiny and actually shines a light on what many conservatives are really being challenged by; that is the relationship revolution as an expansion of the sexual revolution.
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Grief and Loss Among the Polys

Grief and Loss Among the Polys

By John Ullman

S has been gone for over eight years now. She died suddenly, a heart attack, at 61. Her death shocked our poly community, many of us being close to her age. We had lost another of us some years before, but it was an accident, a car wreck. Then we were stunned. But when S died, we were rudely made aware of our own mortality.

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Breaking the mold helps each relationship find its own shape

Breaking the mold helps each relationship find its own shape

86544530Polyamory is by no means for everyone, and monogamy certainly seems to work best for most people. But one of the more unfortunate features of monogamy is the way it tends to force relationships to be either The Right One, or nonexistent. The general goal of monogamy, after all, is to find that one person you can spend the rest of your life with, forsaking all others. ...

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Five Reasons Agreements Fail

Five Reasons Agreements Fail

Two stylized hands clasping, forming a heart. Copyright-free symbol designed by Ravi Poovaiah, Professor, IDC, IIT Bombay.

[NOTE: This article is an excerpt adapted from my Agreements Workbook Series (aka "KISSable Agreements) to appear later 2013. If you'd like to get word as soon as it becomes available, feel free to join my list by downloading one of the ...

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A Multiplicity of Valentine Hearts

A Multiplicity of Valentine Hearts

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Kids scrawl out valentines to exchange at school. Stores are packed with cards, flowers and chocolates of every kind. Red and pink satin and lace lingerie litter the shopping malls. A day focused on couples, or at least coupling, makes it easy to forget that Love doesn’t have to be limited to only one person or that ...

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Growing Up in a Group Marriage

Growing Up in a Group Marriage

One day in the summer of 1971, my parents held hands, closed their eyes and jumped out of their conventional marriage into something strange and new. I was 9 years old at the time, and we were camping at Betsy Lake in the High Unitas Wilderness with another family of five. We were halfway into the camping trip when the six of us kids realized our parents had ...

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Polyamory as a More Peaceful Way of Loving

Polyamory as a More Peaceful Way of Loving

By Mystic Life

Bonobos2I recall watching “The Nature of Sex” on PBS years ago, and feeling fascinated by the segment on bonobos. Since then I have learned much more about this gentle primate, and like many other polyamorous people, have come to see them as role models because they have so much to teach us about peace. Bonobos, importantly, are the only nonviolent primate.

Because we are socialized to ...

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My Mom Was a Hippie . . . UPDATED

My Mom Was a Hippie . . . UPDATED

by Valerie White

One of my favorite songs is Bob Blue’s “My Mom Was a Hippie”, in which a young boy bemoans his parents’ crunchy-granola values. They care more about protesting war than they care about getting a half-decent car. His friends’ parents live more traditional lives, while his are “counter-culture”, and he doesn’t even know what that means. He wishes racism, pollution, sexism and nuclear bombs would just go away so his parents could be ordinary.

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