Comments for Loving More Polyamory Blog http://www.lovemore.com/blog Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware. Sun, 04 Jul 2010 16:57:44 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on Tiger Woods Media Frenzy by Erin Turner http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=168&cpage=1#comment-8208 Erin Turner Sun, 04 Jul 2010 16:57:44 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=168#comment-8208 Tiger Woods is a very good golfer but his reputation as a cheating husband made him a bad character.--; Tiger Woods is a very good golfer but his reputation as a cheating husband made him a bad character.–;

]]> Comment on Loving More Member’s Community Connections by dating advice http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=265&cpage=1#comment-8077 dating advice Fri, 02 Jul 2010 16:57:39 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=265#comment-8077 What if finding a good mate was easy? But it is not. Then after you find one, keeping the flame is another battle of its own. That is why we constantly need advice and information on how to keep our relationships happy. Today Friday, I was searching on Google for personals and I came across this post ( Loving More Polyamory Blog » Blog Archive » Loving More Member’s Community Connections - Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware.). It is informative and educational.Thanks What if finding a good mate was easy? But it is not. Then after you find one, keeping the flame is another battle of its own. That is why we constantly need advice and information on how to keep our relationships happy. Today Friday, I was searching on Google for personals and I came across this post ( Loving More Polyamory Blog » Blog Archive » Loving More Member’s Community Connections – Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware.). It is informative and educational.Thanks

]]> Comment on Tiger Woods Media Frenzy by Callaway Woods Guy http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=168&cpage=1#comment-8012 Callaway Woods Guy Fri, 02 Jul 2010 01:13:59 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=168#comment-8012 It must be hard for Tiger to concentrate on his golf game with everything that has gone on recently. It must be hard for Tiger to concentrate on his golf game with everything that has gone on recently.

]]> Comment on Polyamory interview on Radio Netherlands International English Program The State We’re In by Adele http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371&cpage=1#comment-7933 Adele Thu, 01 Jul 2010 01:14:17 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371#comment-7933 Wonderful interview! I agree with Robyn, that emotional maturity is critical. The interview conveyed the happiness in the various layers of the relationships. I found Ben's anecdote about watching The Grinch with his son very touching. Wonderful interview! I agree with Robyn, that emotional maturity is critical. The interview conveyed the happiness in the various layers of the relationships. I found Ben’s anecdote about watching The Grinch with his son very touching.

]]> Comment on The Nobility of Lies and Perception of the Unicorn by dating advice http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=385&cpage=1#comment-7886 dating advice Wed, 30 Jun 2010 10:55:30 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=385#comment-7886 Hi, what a good post on Loving More Polyamory Blog » Blog Archive » The Nobility of Lies and Perception of the Unicorn - Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware.. The fact is that it is hard to find good posts on such topics. However, today as I was search for family relationships advice line,I came upon this information here. I am satisfied and think my search should end here. Hi, what a good post on Loving More Polyamory Blog » Blog Archive » The Nobility of Lies and Perception of the Unicorn – Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware.. The fact is that it is hard to find good posts on such topics. However, today as I was search for family relationships advice line,I came upon this information here. I am satisfied and think my search should end here.

]]> Comment on Loving More Member’s Community Connections by dating advice http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=265&cpage=1#comment-6847 dating advice Tue, 15 Jun 2010 10:55:09 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=265#comment-6847 The style in which this post has been presented is superb. The post itself ( Loving More Polyamory Blog » Blog Archive » Loving More Member’s Community Connections - Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware. ) is informative. Thanks so much. The style in which this post has been presented is superb. The post itself ( Loving More Polyamory Blog » Blog Archive » Loving More Member’s Community Connections – Latest news, updates, and comments for the polyamory aware. ) is informative. Thanks so much.

]]> Comment on The Nobility of Lies and Perception of the Unicorn by Anita Wagner http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=385&cpage=1#comment-5798 Anita Wagner Thu, 27 May 2010 22:08:56 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=385#comment-5798 We poly movers and shakers have been ecstatic about the amount of media coverage that polyamoruy has been getting. In print and online media the subject is usually treated fairly these days. But broadcast media is a different situation, especially TV. Our needs and their needs are the oppposite. Ironically, our successful open, honest and functional relationships are boring compared to the drama of those that don't work. Translation: Ratings disaster. Our interests are served by being portrayed as honest, ethical, committed, and not that much different than anyone else. Their interests are served by sensationalizing, dramatizing, and even demonizing what we do in order to achieve the desired effect. And I suspect that there are still some producers who worry about the flak they will get, especially from sponsors, if they portray open and honest extramarital relationships as healthy and legitimate. (House is on Fox, after all.) But things can turn around. Jenny Block, who was talked over and not given a fair chance when a guest on Fox's Mornings with Mike and Juliet (more about that at http://vb.ly/29ru) now has a regular sex blog on fox.com. You can see that at (http://vb.ly/29rv). Go figure. NOT someone who wrote a book about hot monogamy, not a sexologist, but instead a bisexual woman who wrote a book about her open marriage. Aside: I'm not sure how that qualifies one to give sex advice and hope that her credibility isn't founded in the perception that she's a slut. And to be fair to my friend, she *is* a wonderful writer. So I guess we take the good with the bad and indeed look forward to the day when our functioning relationships are more consistently and fairly portrayed by broadcast media. We poly movers and shakers have been ecstatic about the amount of media coverage that polyamoruy has been getting. In print and online media the subject is usually treated fairly these days. But broadcast media is a different situation, especially TV. Our needs and their needs are the oppposite. Ironically, our successful open, honest and functional relationships are boring compared to the drama of those that don’t work. Translation: Ratings disaster.

Our interests are served by being portrayed as honest, ethical, committed, and not that much different than anyone else. Their interests are served by sensationalizing, dramatizing, and even demonizing what we do in order to achieve the desired effect. And I suspect that there are still some producers who worry about the flak they will get, especially from sponsors, if they portray open and honest extramarital relationships as healthy and legitimate. (House is on Fox, after all.) But things can turn around. Jenny Block, who was talked over and not given a fair chance when a guest on Fox’s Mornings with Mike and Juliet (more about that at http://vb.ly/29ru) now has a regular sex blog on fox.com. You can see that at (http://vb.ly/29rv). Go figure. NOT someone who wrote a book about hot monogamy, not a sexologist, but instead a bisexual woman who wrote a book about her open marriage.

Aside: I’m not sure how that qualifies one to give sex advice and hope that her credibility isn’t founded in the perception that she’s a slut. And to be fair to my friend, she *is* a wonderful writer.

So I guess we take the good with the bad and indeed look forward to the day when our functioning relationships are more consistently and fairly portrayed by broadcast media.

]]> Comment on Polyamory interview on Radio Netherlands International English Program The State We’re In by Michael Rios http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371&cpage=1#comment-5786 Michael Rios Thu, 27 May 2010 19:19:54 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371#comment-5786 Robyn said "I was struck by them asking Ben a question about what he gets from his relationship with me he doesn’t get from his primary partner. " If I had been Ben, and was asked that question, I would have said "I get Robyn!" I see polyamory as less about filling needs than it is cultivating a garden of delights. If you have to pick *one* person to live with, as your only sexual partner, the only person to possibly to share finances with, etc., etc., then you need to see that person in terms of meeting your needs. When I consider a relationship with another person, though, I don't think of getting my needs met at all. I think in terms of what I appreciate about that person, and how I enjoy what they offer. If I have "needs", I have lots of ways of meeting those-- I don't have to look to any one particular person to meet them. Robyn said “I was struck by them asking Ben a question about what he gets from his relationship with me he doesn’t get from his primary partner. ”

If I had been Ben, and was asked that question, I would have said “I get Robyn!”

I see polyamory as less about filling needs than it is cultivating a garden of delights. If you have to pick *one* person to live with, as your only sexual partner, the only person to possibly to share finances with, etc., etc., then you need to see that person in terms of meeting your needs.

When I consider a relationship with another person, though, I don’t think of getting my needs met at all. I think in terms of what I appreciate about that person, and how I enjoy what they offer. If I have “needs”, I have lots of ways of meeting those– I don’t have to look to any one particular person to meet them.

]]> Comment on Polyamory interview on Radio Netherlands International English Program The State We’re In by Alan M. http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371&cpage=1#comment-5697 Alan M. Wed, 26 May 2010 02:14:04 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371#comment-5697 P.S.: I've just posted a partial transcript on Polyamory in the News: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2010/05/polyfolks-on-npr.html Alan P.S.: I’ve just posted a partial transcript on Polyamory in the News:

http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2010/05/polyfolks-on-npr.html

Alan

]]> Comment on Polyamory interview on Radio Netherlands International English Program The State We’re In by Alan M. http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371&cpage=1#comment-5655 Alan M. Tue, 25 May 2010 14:47:34 +0000 http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?p=371#comment-5655 Great interview by all three of you! What a hit. That show would be an <i>excellent</i> link for anyone to send to family or friends who are worried/upset about you being poly, or are unclear on the concept. Thanks for all you do. Alan M. Great interview by all three of you! What a hit.

That show would be an excellent link for anyone to send to family or friends who are worried/upset about you being poly, or are unclear on the concept.

Thanks for all you do.

Alan M.

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