Loving More Polyamory Blog

The Newsweek article has stirred up a frenzy of comments and posting on their website because of the July 29 article, Only You. And You. And You.

It is always interesting to me to read the comments after an article in mainstream media on polyamory.  There is always a prolific and strong reaction of moralizing and pointing fingers at what terrible perverse people polyamorists are.  Many people seem to live with their heads in some other reality of monogamy being the precious and most legitimate relationship.  If statistics are even close at a minimum half of the people moralizing have had or are having an affair.  Studies show again and again that monogamy is not natural among most animals including humans.  Typically they pair bond and then cheat.

Polyamorist choose to be honest, to open to love and connection with more people.  What really bothers people about polyamory is not the love but that these are romantic relationship involving sex.  These are people having loving SEXUAL relationships.  We all love many people, our kids, parents, friends and family, but bring sex into it and people freak.  It is really our societies challenge with sex that is at issue.  Sex is a wonderful experience of intimacy shared between people that brings them closer.  Why is this so challenging?

Most people in polyamory are loving, honest and care immensely about the health and well being of their partners.  In monogamy that so many stand up and insist is so much better 60% to 70% of the couplings one or both cheat.  They lie, sneak around and put their own and partners health at risk with their deception.  This is the reality of modern so called monogamous couples.  It is not monogamy at all.  Poly people are simply recognizing their needs, wants and desires and are being honest.

I think people get tweaked because it hits too close to home.  Most people have had to choose between two people they love because they did not even consider they might have a choice to love both.  No wonder so many seem so angry.  Flinging insults and making polyamory wrong is a way of coping with unrequited longing.  Kind of like the homophobic who is secretly in the closet about their own sexuality.

Personally true monogamy is not in my nature and cheating is against my personal beliefs.  I prefer honesty and openness.  Monogamy does work great for a few of my friends.  Neither form of relationship is better nor more evolved then the other, simply different.

We are looking for Articles for the next issue of Loving More Magazine.

Deadline next issue September 10, 2009

We need articles with a polyamory or relationship focused theme.

Examples of possible topics; coming out poly, transitional experiences in poly, bisexuality, making polyamory work long term, reconciling poly with traditions of family or religion, history of poly relating, young or next generation poly, etc..

We are also looking for:

Pictures, clip art and artwork,

Photographs –

Any recognizable people in the picture must sign a release specifically for use in Loving More®.

Poly themed poetry and stories

Artwork/Creative Pieces – We are looking for original pieces that represent polyamory to you; sensual, loving, poly events, depictions of people in art or clip art.

We welcome all submissions for review; however submission does not guarantee publication.

All submissions for each issue are reviewed by a committee and may be used in the next issue or a future one depending on how the topics fit the theme of each issue.

For guidelines go to LMGuidelines

Please send your submissions to: Lovingmore@lovemore.com

Questions call

970-667-5683

Loving More®  Writer’s Guidelines

Please read writers guidelines thoroughly.  By submitting articles to Loving More you agree to adhere the Loving More writer guidelines.

1. Articles should be relevant to polyamory or other types of healthy relationships, including articles by people who are working to integrate polyamory into their lives.  But we consider other subjects based on relevancy to the magazine.  Check our website (www.lovemore.com) for a quick tour on polyamory.
2. Article should be clear, concise, with length close to the following:

• 1 page       750 words
• 2 pages      1,500 words
• 3 pages      2,500 words
• 4 pages      3,500 words
• Extremely lengthy articles are only published when they are exceptional both in content and subject matter.

3                 Unless prior arrangements are made, article submission should be in electronic format, either via e-mail or on disk.  We accept either Microsoft Word format or plain text format in Times or Times New Roman font style.

4                 We edit all articles for content, style and space, but we do our best to maintain the tone of the article.  If you wish to be involved in the editing process, please contact us with that request.

5                 Articles should be grammatically correct, with correct spelling and punctuation.  We edit every article, but a good raw material always helps.  Although English language can sometimes be lacking in expressing poly ideas, please minimize creating or using non-standard words.

6                 Since Loving More® is not a technical journal, please keep this in mind when writing an article.

7                 For style consistency, we follow the Associated Press Stylebook and Webster’s New World College Dictionary, Fourth Edition whenever possible.  Both are available at a local bookstore.

8                 We do not return submitted materials, so please retain a copy for yourself.

9                 Along with articles, we also publish poems, cartoons, illustrations and photographs.  We look forward to establishing working relationships with quality artists.

10              We do not publish pornographic materials or those containing explicit sexual content, unless the context is particularly relevant to the magazine.

11              We do not accept simultaneous submissions.  But we reprint, under legal permission, already-published articles if they have appeared in magazines our readers may not have seen, or if they are particularly relevant to polyamory.

12              If an article is interesting, well-written and applicable, but does not fit the guidelines, please submit it anyway.  We are always open to good material and new surprises.

13              Generally, we pay for articles with copy of the magazine and biography with links at the end of the article.  We are looking for high-quality material, and most of our submissions are from people who are donating their work.

14              Please include a bio and contact info if you wish it to be included at the end of your article and how you want your name to be listed on the article.

15              We welcome all submissions for review; however submission does not guarantee publication.

16              All submissions for each issue are reviewed by a committee and may be used in the next issue or a future one depending on how the topics fit the theme of each issue.

17              Copyrights of articles published are shared with Loving More.  Authors retain copyright while Loving More has the right to publish articles from the magazine into future issues, on the Loving More website and other media published under the Loving More Trademark.  (we do require that authors not submit articles published in Loving More for publication elsewhere for at least one year after the first publication by Loving More)

Deadlines for article submissions can change so check the Loving More blog for the next issue deadline.

For questions or concerns about guidelines and/or submissions please call 970-667-5683.

We greatly appreciate your contributions and submissions.

The Loving More® Staff

Due to modifications being made to the member area the “Join Now” button is not working.  We are in the process of troubleshooting the issue; however it may not be resolved until Monday August 10.

This will only affect members who have not yet created a login and profile.

The member login is still working so if you have an account you can login.

We apologize for the inconvenience.

Loving More has a new blog.  The blog will be displaying on the front page in the future but currently is accessible from the main page or the link below.

The Loving More blog will have several contributors from around the country covering subjects of polyamory, relationships, young poly, and other poly related subjects.  In addition it will be used for current Loving More updates and announcements.

If you have general questions, we suggest checking the log as the answer may be there.  For personal membership/subscriber questions please call or email us directly.  Calling is often faster as email can take up to two weeks to get answered.

Members will recieve access to a PDF-printable version of issue #39 as well as an offline version with viewer to keep on your computer.   Instructions will be emailed by the end of next week next week.

Robyn Trask
Director Loving More
robyn@lovemore.com
970-667-5683
www.lovemore.com

I will be using the blog to udate happenings and information about Loving More, the magazine, membership, and other announcements.

The online magazine is done and up and running but many are asking about the PDF/printable version for members.  We will be getting those to members in about a week.  We have some technical issues to work out.  Members will be able to download an offline version with viewer of each online issue along with the PDF.

We will ba adding a feature to the magazine that will allow comments on articles.  It will simply link to the blog for article comments.

The Retreat in Spetember is gearing up and we will have a list of presenters/presentations up by the end of the week.  We are getting a lot of response from the Newsweek article and release of Loving More Magazine so we expect a full house at Easton Mountain.

Thanks to everyone for the wonderful feedback on the magazine.

Love and Light,

Robyn Trask, Loving More

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