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Five Reasons Agreements Fail

Five Reasons Agreements Fail

Two stylized hands clasping, forming a heart. Copyright-free symbol designed by Ravi Poovaiah, Professor, IDC, IIT Bombay.

[NOTE: This article is an excerpt adapted from my Agreements Workbook Series (aka "KISSable Agreements) to appear later 2013. If you'd like to get word as soon as it becomes available, feel free to join my list by downloading one of the ...

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A Multiplicity of Valentine Hearts

A Multiplicity of Valentine Hearts

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Kids scrawl out valentines to exchange at school. Stores are packed with cards, flowers and chocolates of every kind. Red and pink satin and lace lingerie litter the shopping malls. A day focused on couples, or at least coupling, makes it easy to forget that Love doesn’t have to be limited to only one person or that ...

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Polyamory as a More Peaceful Way of Loving

Polyamory as a More Peaceful Way of Loving

By Mystic Life

Bonobos2I recall watching “The Nature of Sex” on PBS years ago, and feeling fascinated by the segment on bonobos. Since then I have learned much more about this gentle primate, and like many other polyamorous people, have come to see them as role models because they have so much to teach us about peace. Bonobos, importantly, are the only nonviolent primate.

Because we are socialized to ...

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My Mom Was a Hippie . . . UPDATED

My Mom Was a Hippie . . . UPDATED

by Valerie White

One of my favorite songs is Bob Blue’s “My Mom Was a Hippie”, in which a young boy bemoans his parents’ crunchy-granola values. They care more about protesting war than they care about getting a half-decent car. His friends’ parents live more traditional lives, while his are “counter-culture”, and he doesn’t even know what that means. He wishes racism, pollution, sexism and nuclear bombs would just go away so his parents could be ordinary.

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What People Think of Us

What People Think of Us

I’ve been reflecting recently on the variety of reactions we polyamorists get to our lifestyle. At choir practice the other night, one of the sopranos mentioned to me that she was taking a class on time management and that the instructor had said that after taking the class the student’s would have so much more time that their spouses and partners and polyamorous families would be delighted.

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Between Two Worlds

An Introduction to Social Polyamory – By Nancy & Darrell Casey
Copy Right 2005 -Reprinted from Loving More Magazine Issue #35 Summer 2005

“When it’s time to cum, you have to go,” was the humorous comment I’d often make as newcomers were introduced to “Rainbow”, which was an off premise Lifestyle Swing club. “Off premise” meant that dance activity was limited to making sensual and social connections; overt sexuality was not allowed. ...

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Why is Polyamory so Hard to Define?

Polyamory and the exact meaning of the word is often the subject of debate among self-identified polyamorous people. It has been much debated on websites, at conferences and discussion groups around the country. Even among leading polyamory activists the term is debated over and over again. What is the source of the controversy?

Webster’s Dictionary defines polyamory as “the state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a ...

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The Primary Difference Between Polyamory and Monogamy

By Mystic Life

The reason most traditional relationships end is due to one (or more) of what I’ll refer to as “The Three D’s”: Drifting, Dysfunction and Desire.

Drifting occurs when two people evolve in different directions, and no longer feel a common bond that they once shared. Of course, a certain degree of variation in interests and values is typical, but when members of a relationship have significantly “drifted ...

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“Polyamory”: What’s IN and What’s OUT?

The meaning of the word “polyamory” has been debated since the moment of–or perhaps before!–its entry into the standard English-speaking lexicon in the early 1990′s: Polyamory vs. Swinging; Polyamory vs. Cheating; is Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell Polyamory or not? All of these have been discussed nearly innumerable times on lists across the US and in some cases internationally. As a relatively new movement,  Continue Reading →

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The Shame Game: The Reality of Testing for STIs

Annual testing for STIs (sexually transmitted infection) is something I believe every sexually active person should do for their health, not just for people who are in some form of open relationship but anyone sexually active. It is part of being safe and sane with our own health. Unfortunately testing can often be source of shame and negativity for women and men seeking testing.

For several years I chose to go to the Boulder Women’s clinic, a seemingly progressive place in ...

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