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Swinging and Polyamory: The Great Divide?

Swinging and Polyamory: The Great Divide?

By Maureen Marovitch
Reprinted from Loving More Issue #33, Winter 2005.

I’m going to say something that’s going to get me into water hotter than those at the Harbin Hot Springs.

Swingers and polyamorists have a lot in common.

I can hear the howls already. How ridiculous! Polyamory is all about relationships, sharing lives together, creating more love. Swinging is all about ‘recreational sex’, instant gratification, lust without love.

It’s so comforting to have tidy ...

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Shifting The Monogamy Paradigm

By Robyn Trask
Reprinted from Loving More Magazine issue 35, Copyright 2005

One of the questions asked most frequently by polyamorous couples is “how do we make polyamory work for us while maintaining our relationship as a couple?”  The question is easy; the answer is at once both simple and complex:  You don’t!

Many people — myself included — are working to make their poly relationships viable and sustainable while using tools ...

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The Importance of Respect

Relationship advice is everywhere and you often hear in the poly community that the mantra is communicate – communicate – communicate… You will hear mention of making agreements, boundaries and of course the importance of love. Respect however is often mentioned in passing and yet respect is paramount in successful happy relationships, romantic or otherwise.

A few months ago, while channel surfing, I came across a biography interview with Reba McEntire. ...

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Polymorphous Diversity

The Array of Designer Relationships in Polyamory

Book Excerpt from What Does Polyamory Look Like? Polydiverse Patterns of Loving and Living in Modern Polyamorous Relationships By Mim Chapman, PhD

Publisher:, August, 2010

Available through the Loving More bookstore.

Polyamory is sometimes described as many ways of loving, not just many loves. To be totally honest, most of us don’t really have all that many loves…after all, although love is unlimited, time ...

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Poly Parents and Poly Kids

Reprinted from Loving More Magazine Winter Issue #37

By Robyn Trask

When I’m asked about polyamory, oftentimes the questions are “What about the kids?” or “Isn’t this confusing to children?” or “Isn’t polyamory harmful to children?” The last one, of course, is more of an accusation than a question. I am a parent, I love my three kids deeply, and I honestly have asked myself some of these ...

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Jealousy and the Abyss


by William Pennell Rock

From the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, Vol. 23, No. 2, Spring 1983, 70-84. Copyright ©1983 by the Association for Humanistic Psychology. Reprinted by permission of the author. Reprinted from Loving More Magazine 2005 Issue #33.

Summary. Relationships — and jealousy in particular — provide an opportunity to come to a fundamental understanding of the self. Jealousy is the eruption of attachment. It can be transcended only through ...

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