2013 Polyamory Retreat Schedule

This  schedule is subject to change.


Friday September 6th

3:30 PM – 6:00 PM


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Check-in is from 4:00 pm to 6:00 pm on in the upstairs of the main lodge building.   You will receive a schedule, workshop synopsis, and room assignment at this time.


4:30 PM – 5:45 PM


Newcomer’s Circle

Jesus Garcia

New to Poly or Loving More Retreats? Orientation is a great place to get your questions answered and hear basic information on Loving More and the conference, as well as polyamory.


6:00 PM  – 7:00 PM




7:15 PM – 10:00 PM


Opening Circle and Orientation

OpeningCircleOpening Circle/Orientation – We request that all attendees be present for the opening circle and orientation, even if you have attended a Loving More Retreat in the past. We will use this time for all of us to get to know one another, talk about the weekend events and create a safe container to explore deeply. The evening will include discussion and a few exercises to open our hearts and let go of the outside world.


10:15 PM – 11:30 PM

Media or Movie



Saturday September 7th

Spend the day participating in wonderful workshops or simply relax and enjoy poly community and Easton Mountain’s facilities.


8:00 AM – 9:00 AM



9:00 AM  – 10:00AM

Announcement of the day’s schedule and small group check in.


Morning Sessions
10:05 AM – 12:00 PM


Polyamory Story Time

 April Oshun Grace

This workshop is a space and time for story and imagination. I offer this in the tradition of a Native talking circle. Stories are intimately human. Sharing of stories has always been the Creative force behind cultural Change, imagination, and Spirit. In this talking circle we’ll share our stories, or perhaps especially meaningful or spicy vignettes, around the theme of the interface among Polyamory and culture –whatever these mean to us each, within the unique personal or familial worlds of being we each inhabit.
Inevitably we will find our own worlds of imagination and Creativity Changing, deepening, and being expanded, along with our appreciation of Loving More as a vital Community, alive with our continued exploration of what is real, meaningful, challenging, and fulfilling, or perhaps outmoded or transformed as new explorations have Changed us. We’ll explore what is upfront or new, generative, restorative, and possible in our lives…
As a facilitator I will encourage and ensure a container of unconditional acceptance and compassion for full expression. My hope is that we come away in awe of our Community, with the beauty and sacredness of our diversity and kindredness. As per my Native roots, I believe that narrative is potent Medicine!


When Values Diverge:  Co-creating Harmonious Polyamorous  Relationships when Values Among Partners Differ

Tara Shakti-Ma

“Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”   ~ Rumi
Polyamory-in-practice tends to open and trigger us in ways we previously may not have expected possible.  When we don’t feel that our hopes and preferences are being met satisfyingly, it seems to be human nature to sometimes try to make someone “wrong” and someone “right”.   How might our dynamics and negotiations be more satisfying to everyone involved, if we let go of “right” and “wrong”, and deeply commit to compassionate collaboration and negotiation?  What might a “win-win” negotiation look like?  How might we self-sooth and self-facilitate when it becomes clear that our partners cannot authentically “meet” us 100% where we want to be met?  What are some practices and perspectives we might employ to support us in that intention?
In this interactive workshop we will explore these questions and come away with new ideas for how we relate with ourselves and others.  Poly-folk who have stories to share about how they successfully found their way to the “field” beyond right-doing and wrong-doing – and into compassionate and loving collaboration – are enthusiastically invited to join us; as well as folks looking for ideas about how to expand their capacity to do the same.




12:15 PM – 1:15 PM




Afternoon Session 1
1:30 PM – 3:30 PM


Letting Go without Suffering

 Mark Shepard

It has been said: “We all experience pain. But suffering is optional.”
One of the greatest sources of suffering in our lives is something we create by holding on to the notion that somehow things in our relationships or lives should be other than they are.
This workshop is all about letting go of the positions in our minds and hearts that cause us so much angst. We cause ourselves suffering when we want our lover to be other than they are. We cause ourselves suffering when we try to be something other than we are.
Part of the appeal of Polyamory is that we can relax into being ourselves with our partner(s) because they accept us as we are. We don’t have to pretend to not be attracted to other people… Instead of clinging to notions of what a relationship “should” be, or what love “should” be, what if we were able to release that place in ourselves that clings or demands or is fearful? What if we could let go of the suffering in our relationships?
  • Learn/Practice how to let go and move on when a relationship ends or when attraction is not reciprocated.
  • Learn/Practice how to own your own projections and recognize other’s projections.
  • Learn/Practice not taking another person’s behavior personally.
  • Learn/Practice how to manage and even release jealousy.



Transformational Relationships

Julio Cortes

Relationships as a catalyst for personal and spiritual growth.



Afternoon Session 2
3:45 PM – 5:30 PM



Over 20 years a Triad

Rev. Poohzen D. Bear

Since 1976 Poohzen has been responsibly non-monogamous or as we say today, Polyamorous.  For more than 30 years in relationship with Jeff and Steve.  Over 20 of those years as an open triad.  Seven years ago, the triple broke up romantically, but continues to be family and just maintains 2 separate households.  37 years later Poohzen firmly believes that Radically Honest Polyamoury is a very valid alternative lifestyle.
Using the chakra system as a basic structure, Poohzen will share her experiences and insights in our marvelous lifestyle.    A song and dance routine will emerge that is spirit driven, spontaneous and barely edited.  A short question and answer period is planned for the end of the workshop.  Poohzen will be available for personal conversations the rest of the conference.



Healing Power of Touch

Robyn Trask and Jesus Garcia

Join us for an experiential workshop of touch and connection. Working in groups of three to four each person will have the opportunity to be touched, anointed with therapeutic oils and massaged by two or three people in their group. The massage can be therapeutic, sensual or just gentle and loving. This workshop is about asking for what you want, setting your boundaries and allowing yourself to be nurtured. We will be using essential and massage oils.


6:00 PM – 7:00 PM


7:30 PM – 9:00 PM


Polyamory Sacred Sex Puja

Robyn Trask  and Julio Cortes

This is an interactive experience that combines the teachings of Taoist and Tantric Sacred Sexual practices to awaken the flow of sexual creative energy.  Working with techniques of Tantric and Taoist fire breath, heart connection we will open the inner flute and flow energy with one another. We will connect to ourselves and others in partnership, with multiple partners and with the entire group.


9:15 PM – 10:30 PM


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Sunday September 9th

8:00 AM – 8:45 AM



9:00 AM – 10:15 AM


Announcements and Groups Check In

Morning Session

10:30 AM – 12:00 PM


Making Relationships “Work” with Play

 Ben Silver

Being in love, even deep passionate love, doesn’t necessarily equal making relationships work.   In addition to caring and compassion we all need tools, communication skills and ways of making sure we’re on the same page about what our mutual relationships will look like.  It also helps to be able to practice those skills outside of intense “make or break” situations.  This workshop will give us a chance to do that in fun and playful ways.
What kinds of agreements and relationship structures can thrive and support each partner’s development and growth to make our dreams come true throughout our lifecycles?  What have we learned about making this lifestyle work?  And what shapes do our households and emotional lives take on, several decades down this path.
This highly interactive workshop will utilize role playing/psycho drama, other tools to practice skills and discussion to work through issues in a safe supportive space.  For folks who want to share what they’ve done and how, or ask questions of those who have, a discussion (along with some roleplaying) of relationships, polyamory and poly families with and without children.



12:15 PM-1:15 PM



1:30 PM -2:30 PM

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3:00 PM

Departure Time and check out