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Gay Marriage and the Relationship Revolution

Robyn Trask — Wed, 15 May 2013 18:54:10 +0000

by Robyn Trask
Gay marriage is being hotly debated all around the country. In an effort to block marriage equality for gays and lesbians ultra conservatives make the argument that marriage is about procreation and serving the interests of society. The challenge is this argument does not hold up under even the slightest scrutiny and actually shines a light on what many conservatives are really being challenged by; that is the relationship revolution as an expansion of the sexual revolution.

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Grief and Loss Among the Polys

Loving More — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 20:08:53 +0000

By John Ullman
S has been gone for over eight years now. She died suddenly, a heart attack, at 61. Her death shocked our poly community, many of us being close to her age. We had lost another of us some years before, but it was an accident, a car wreck. Then we were stunned. But when S died, we were rudely made aware of our own mortality.
Her wake brought together S’s bio family and her poly friends, many ...

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Breaking the mold helps each relationship find its own shape

Kamela Dolinova — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 23:26:34 +0000

Polyamory is by no means for everyone, and monogamy certainly seems to work best for most people. But one of the more unfortunate features of monogamy is the way it tends to force relationships to be either The Right One, or nonexistent. The general goal of monogamy, after all, is to find that one person you can spend the rest of your life with, forsaking all others. And for some people, this can work really well, for a really long ...

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Five Reasons Agreements Fail

Dawn Davidson — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 02:36:35 +0000

[NOTE: This article is an excerpt adapted from my Agreements Workbook Series (aka "KISSable Agreements) to appear later 2013. If you'd like to get word as soon as it becomes available, feel free to join my list by downloading one of the free tools on my website (remember to give me a valid email address, and to confirm that address, or I won't be able to send you the tool!)
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A Multiplicity of Valentine Hearts

Janet — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:33:07 +0000

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Kids scrawl out valentines to exchange at school. Stores are packed with cards, flowers and chocolates of every kind. Red and pink satin and lace lingerie litter the shopping malls. A day focused on couples, or at least coupling, makes it easy to forget that Love doesn’t have to be limited to only one person or that it is the exclusive domain of singular units of male-female pairings. And fortunately, this past ...

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Growing Up in a Group Marriage

Loving More — Sun, 03 Mar 2013 17:30:18 +0000

One day in the summer of 1971, my parents held hands, closed their eyes and jumped out of their conventional marriage into something strange and new. I was 9 years old at the time, and we were camping at Betsy Lake in the High Unitas Wilderness with another family of five. We were halfway into the camping trip when the six of us kids realized our parents had mixed and matched: My father was in the tent with their mother, ...

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Polyamory as a More Peaceful Way of Loving

Mystic Life — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 18:16:30 +0000

By Mystic Life
I recall watching “The Nature of Sex” on PBS years ago, and feeling fascinated by the segment on bonobos. Since then I have learned much more about this gentle primate, and like many other polyamorous people, have come to see them as role models because they have so much to teach us about peace. Bonobos, importantly, are the only nonviolent primate.
Because we are socialized to see ourselves as inherently superior to all animals, it may be ...

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My Mom Was a Hippie . . . UPDATED

Valerie — Thu, 28 Feb 2013 15:28:18 +0000

by Valerie White
One of my favorite songs is Bob Blue’s “My Mom Was a Hippie”, in which a young boy bemoans his parents’ crunchy-granola values. They care more about protesting war than they care about getting a half-decent car. His friends’ parents live more traditional lives, while his are “counter-culture”, and he doesn’t even know what that means. He wishes racism, pollution, sexism and nuclear bombs would just go away so his parents could be ordinary.
Time has passed ...

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What People Think of Us

Valerie — Sat, 01 Dec 2012 22:41:53 +0000

I’ve been reflecting recently on the variety of reactions we polyamorists get to our lifestyle. At choir practice the other night, one of the sopranos mentioned to me that she was taking a class on time management and that the instructor had said that after taking the class the student’s would have so much more time that their spouses and partners and polyamorous families would be delighted.
I suspect “Married and Dating” may have something to do with our greater ...

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Between Two Worlds

admin — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 21:28:11 +0000

An Introduction to Social Polyamory – By Nancy & Darrell Casey
Copy Right 2005 -Reprinted from Loving More Magazine Issue #35 Summer 2005
“When it’s time to cum, you have to go,” was the humorous comment I’d often make as newcomers were introduced to “Rainbow”, which was an off premise Lifestyle Swing club. “Off premise” meant that dance activity was limited to making sensual and social connections; overt sexuality was not allowed. At this point in our lives, Darrell and ...

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