Comments on: Polyamory interview on Radio Netherlands International English Program The State We’re In

By: Adele

Adele — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 01:14:17 +0000

Wonderful interview! I agree with Robyn, that emotional maturity is critical. The interview conveyed the happiness in the various layers of the relationships. I found Ben’s anecdote about watching The Grinch with his son very touching.

By: Michael Rios

Michael Rios — Thu, 27 May 2010 19:19:54 +0000

Robyn said “I was struck by them asking Ben a question about what he gets from his relationship with me he doesn’t get from his primary partner. ”

If I had been Ben, and was asked that question, I would have said “I get Robyn!”

I see polyamory as less about filling needs than it is cultivating a garden of delights. If you have to pick *one* person to live with, as your only sexual partner, the only person to possibly to share finances with, etc., etc., then you need to see that person in terms of meeting your needs.

When I consider a relationship with another person, though, I don’t think of getting my needs met at all. I think in terms of what I appreciate about that person, and how I enjoy what they offer. If I have “needs”, I have lots of ways of meeting those– I don’t have to look to any one particular person to meet them.

By: Alan M.

Alan M. — Wed, 26 May 2010 02:14:04 +0000

P.S.: I’ve just posted a partial transcript on Polyamory in the News:

http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2010/05/polyfolks-on-npr.html

Alan

By: Alan M.

Alan M. — Tue, 25 May 2010 14:47:34 +0000

Great interview by all three of you! What a hit.

That show would be an excellent link for anyone to send to family or friends who are worried/upset about you being poly, or are unclear on the concept.

Thanks for all you do.

Alan M.

By: Stace Johnson

Stace Johnson — Sat, 15 May 2010 04:50:09 +0000

I thought the interview was a great one, and it was refreshing to hear some relatively difficult (and good!) questions asked about polyamory without focusing on the sensationalist aspects. This show was about relationships, not just sex, and I think Ben and Jesus both exemplified compersion throughout the interview.

Good job, everyone!

It’s interesting that Firefox doesn’t recognize the words “polyamory” and “compersion”. It also doesn’t recognize “fibromyalgia”, which drives me batty.