Many people live in fear as a way of life: fear of losing the job, losing some way of life they are comfortable with, what the future may hold, if their partner would leave them, that the world is going downhill because things like ways of relating, marriage, etc. change over time…so people who value such as tradition, security, etc. close to their heart will always feel threatened by anything new.

And people who hold values dear to them that seem to conflict with poly people will feel threatened…and values conflicts are difficult conflicts to even approach and discuss unless all people are willing to open their heart and really listen to the other.

Yes, I think that many monoamorous people have been attracted to others, and have cheated as well. A book on the subject I like is at http://dearpeggy.com/. This is an interesting book, almost a handbook on how to stay monoamorous even when the urge is so strong to cheat. Good book for people who want to stay a dyad and refrain from being with others.

We polys don’t need that restraint, just great communication and trust, which interestingly is the theme of her book as well.

Thanks for having this blog. xo

My wife says it’s not happening because we’re not enough of a threat yet. The Newsweek article seems to have raised the threat level for a lot of people, though, judging from the comments to the article and the freakout it’s causing around the right-wing blogosphere.

It’s not just that this is a major, positive article in a major news magazine. It’s that the magazine says poly is going to be part of society’s future and it’s important: “America’s Next Romantic Revolution,” and “It’s enough to make any monogamist’s head spin. But the traditionalists had better get used to it.”

Honestly, I didn’t think we’d be taken this seriously quite this soon!