Comments on: Can We Find Balance?

By: Jessica Karels

Jessica Karels — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 07:58:52 +0000

My husband and I believe that it’s important to enjoy one’s “work”. Each of us is in a career that allows us to do what we’re good at and follow our passions. This means that going to work rejuvenates us rather than drains us. It has taken ~7 years of personal exploration, self-development, patience, and a little luck to get to the point where we’re at.

As for time with my partners – the three of us are fairly independent, and we get satisfaction out of simply being in the same room with each other, doing our own thing – and then talking about our various endeavors/projects/classes over a shared meal afterwards. Each of our respective activities (activism/research for me, World of Warcraft for Corey, and WoW & school for Dale) are like “secondaries” in our relationship. Seeing our partners happy with what they’re focused on makes the rest of us happy.

As for trying to get other stuff done – we stick to doing things that we like to do or are inspired to do, and delegating the rest. Sometimes we’ll resort to bartering (or outright paying) others to the stuff that we either don’t have time or aren’t passionate about doing.

By: Inferno

Inferno — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:02:32 +0000

With how busy the world has become and our current economy it is amazing that people have time for even casual relationships. Keeping ties with friends becomes a chore when you must work a lot and when not working you are worried about money/security.
That is the position the average american is in…. It is a challenge for everybody. Not just those in polyamorous relationships.

By: Alan M.

Alan M. — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:15:48 +0000

Well, old-fashioned Stoic that I am, I try to find fun and pleasure *in* work, activism, and duties. But I’ve learned to say “no” when the demands get out of balance.

One of our household sayings is, “we can’t do everything.”

By: LScribbens

LScribbens — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 07:40:15 +0000

This is very true with me. With the current economy I am working two jobs and my wife works one, which leaves little time for my relationship with my wife much less adding any additional relationships. Trying to do so would leave even less time for my wife and would not be fair to my secondary relationships, either. So for now, I’m kind of laying low other than lovers I can see once in a while who don’t require the time and energy a full-blown polyamorous relationship does.